obvious

May 27th, 2022

• focus on perspectives instead of opinions or beliefs obvious
  • twitter.com/davidklaing/status/1404470449266847748

January 19th, 2022

• say the obvious — more precisely sometimes things need to be said even though they feel like they really really should go without saying

Podcast summaries

• Keywords: Eric Chisholm Sarah McManus Conversation As Medium blindspot feedback is hard (but possible!) ottergroup fishbowl frame dialogue frame blindspot Circling Liminal Space Agency NNTD upward spiral fuel the upward spiral nobody is to blame What is Blame? building trust out of distrust trust-dancing is an element of all human interactions Game A Game B Circling NVC NNTD has let me see how certain attempts towards trust-building will fail to build non-naive trust obvious

• 1:56:46 - 2:09:14 - An example of how NNTD can help resolve disagreement around doing the dishes. obvious

core principles of the NNTD

• try to find a vantage point in your own mind from which what's being said here seems obvious to you

June 27th, 2021

• "of course / obviously" is a powerful way to communicate something that you understand to be common knowledge to be self-evident to everyone in the conversation
  • but it will produce frame shear or frame pressure if used in a context where that's not so
    • and potentially distrust or compartmentalization
  • not just in a context where not everybody sees the thing as self-evident, but even in a context where everybody does but they don't have common knowledge

• If "I/we didn't do anything wrong" was as obvious to you as it is within a grounded post-blame mindset, then there's no need to even assert it. The assertion of it comes from a fear that that won't be obvious—an active maintenance of a non-blame frame in opposition to a fear of blame.

Sequence on NNTD

• choice / commitment doesn't make sense for mindset, where the choice should be obvious and if it's not, you're confused
  • may relate to chapman's bit about committing to confused stances - I tweeted him some questions about this June 14th, 2021ish
  • I have a piece of writing on this that's near-ready, but I'm just not sure what name to use for the good mindset
  • which relates to the need for an introduction to the mindset & cultural platform shift

April 8th, 2021

• if I'd gone and tried to say "ofc XYZ" with a group for whom that wasn't also obvious then that would have invited a whole frame battle