Sarah McManus
- a collaborator on the whole meta-protocol everything project
- who I was in a romantic relationship with from 2017-2022
- has a very excellent public roam HowToHuman
- her integrity was part of what allowed me to see the NNTD
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Podcast summaries
- Keywords: Eric Chisholm Sarah McManus Conversation As Medium blindspot feedback is hard (but possible!) ottergroup fishbowl frame dialogue frame blindspot Circling Liminal Space Agency NNTD upward spiral fuel the upward spiral nobody is to blame What is Blame? building trust out of distrust trust-dancing is an element of all human interactions Game A Game B Circling NVC NNTD has let me see how certain attempts towards trust-building will fail to build non-naive trust obvious
Vancouver Island ProtoB
- contact Sarah McManus perhaps
September 16th, 2021
- real-world Beer Game example, via Sarah McManus
August 14th, 2021
- Notes from Sarah McManus talking with me about
HowToHuman
- Sarah McManus's Roam
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- Sarah McManus has notes in HowToHuman:
February 18th, 2021
Malcolm & Benjamin Carr call re full-fractal buy-in › B > I think you could really use a bunch of concrete case…
- so eg I'm thinking about the recent money pile or whatever we're going to call it experience, and Sarah McManus's experience
- and the sense of like, at this point, 2 calls in, there's a cost to voicing dissent, at whatever level of capacity I have to voice that and whatever capacity the group has to receive that, in whatever way will feed or not feed the group synergy
- M > yeah, she has so much epic skill at being able to notice inadequacies, but her skill at being able to point that out in ways that people will be able to see
- B > yeah, thinking of Paul Graham's Jessica Livingston article
- as an example of that kind of "suss out" role
- M > totally
January 8th, 2021
- then I was talking with Sarah McManus and when she heard me articulate a recent insight she asked me to schedule a showtime for that, but I didn't yet have a piece of writing I felt satisfied with—that I would genuinely rather publish than nothing. So I had nothing to readily schedule... so I kept putting off scheduling anything.
- I did end up doing some writing on the topic, on twitter [thread] and roam: everything makes sense
music volume case study
- Revealing that I'm currently using my headphones like earplugs (not listening to anything through them), and when I took them out, I was irritated by the pounding, un-ignorable baseline from your room.I put them back in, and can only hear the edge of it
- huh, it's so counterintuitive to me that revealing irritation about a baseline could land for you as "feel really cared for" -- and I'm hearing that's so!
September 4th, 2020
- Made a remark to Sarah McManus today that seemed worth writing up briefly. We were talking about shadow-work and unconscious drives, and I referred to some parts as "self-undermining" and she questioned my use of that phrase since we'd just been talking about a perspective from which all parts are considered to be doing something meaningful/important/valid etc.
- I pointed out that inasmuch as the "self" is a necessary organizing function, as eg it is construed in the context of Internal Family Systems, then any parts that require as part of their functioning that information be hidden from consciousness, necessarily undermine the Self
- this doesn't make those parts bad! it's a structural thing.
- ...and there may still be all sorts of reasons to not frame things as "self-undermining". this was just an exploration into the idea that maybe it's consistent with 100% coherence empathy
- sort of like how an individual could be doing something that makes total sense for them, AND is actually disrupting some aspect of the group