self-trust comes from respecting distrust
- People can't trust what they can't trust.
- They can perhaps learn to trust something they can't currently trust.
- They can perhaps fake trusting something they can't trust, either consciously & playfully ("act as if and see what happens") or unconsciously & self-deceptively (a common outcome of frame control and source of guru dynamics).
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April 1st, 2024
- the yang to post-regret's yin — acceptance isn't the same as acceptance, the obstacle is the way, self-trust comes from respecting distrust
- In a world of karma and causality, "Changing the past" is the only thing worth striving for.
You are trapped, inexorably, on a rail-path that pulls you into the future that the past created.
You cannot make anything in the future 'better' without in some way changing the past.
The Trying-To-Be-Wise say, "You shouldn't try to change the past; you should try to accept it."
What do you think changing the past feels like, from the inside?
Once the past has truly changed, you don't *feel* it as changed; you feel it as has-always-been.
"Failure to accept the past" is merely the experience, from-the-inside, of what it means to need to change the past.
"Accepting the past" is merely the experience, from-the-inside, of having changed the past so that a better future can happen.
everything makes sense
- And also that if something feels off to you and it feels lie-shaped, then there's something that makes sense about your distrust, and self-trust comes from respecting distrust
Podcast summaries
- Keywords - cooperation & defection aren't as obvious as they might seem (they depend on frame) IFS collective agency untangle self-authoring social technology is more of a bottleneck than material technology intentionality everyone is always doing whatever makes the most sense to them partswork Coherence Therapy everything makes sense Everyone is basically living in a dream mashup of their current external situation & old emotional meanings self-trust comes from respecting distrust Learning how to trust yourself when all men doubt you, but make allowance for their doubting too safety psychological safety Alfie Kohn punishment is goodharting waiting to happen protectiveness is damage control deliberate "negative reinforcement" is punishment even if you don't call it that intrinsic motivation adulthood An Everyone Culture in general, people don't not-care. they care about many things and don't know how to care for all of them together (PCT) reward is just the temporary relief of punishment scarcity much of human collaboration scales sublinearly but it's possible to scale superlinearly what is culture? how do we make groups with the union of their individual wisdoms rather than the intersection of their individual wisdoms? list of common schemas learned in school School is fake averagerianism post-average
- 6:56 - 11:17 - If disentanglement isn't about maximizing agency, what is it about? How do we become more deliberate about our time and actions? untangle intentionality everyone is always doing whatever makes the most sense to them partswork Coherence Therapy everything makes sense dream mashups Everyone is basically living in a dream mashup of their current external situation & old emotional meanings self-trust comes from respecting distrust Learning how to trust yourself when all men doubt you, but make allowance for their doubting too