Joe Lightfoot
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Podcast summaries
- Keywords: NNTD, Home, everyone will constantly point out ways in which things are incomplete, Learning how to trust yourself when all men doubt you, but make allowance for their doubting too, community, what might a healthy community look like?, complaints are sacred: how we affirm our values, protectiveness is damage control, defensiveness = protectiveness, Everyone is basically living in a dream mashup of their current external situation & old emotional meanings, sometimes things need to be said even though they feel like they really really should go without saying, What is Blame?, everything makes sense, there's no way to communicate correctly or incorrectly - there's just what works in context and what doesn't work, apologize in the other person's frame; forgive in your own frame, power dynamics
- Outline of ideas discussed (I'm 'M', Joe is 'J')
- 0:00:34 - 12:55 - Home, what might a healthy community look like?
- 0:00:34 - J invites M to share “any kind of song that is inside of your heart if there's one that is desired to be shared right now”. This leads to M sharing this song:
- 9:20 - 12:54 - What it would look like if I built my own community, using Euvie Ivanova and Mike Gilliland's Smart Village as reference.
- 12:55 - 16:37 - A quick description of what NNTD is about and what it tries to solve for.
- 16:38 - 23:51 - Trust Learning how to trust yourself when all men doubt you, but make allowance for their doubting too and its role in creating a healthy community, what might a healthy community look like?
- 24:11 - 25:18 - Complaining everyone will constantly point out ways in which things are incomplete, complaints are sacred: how we affirm our values, protectiveness is damage control, defensiveness = protectiveness
- 27:08 - 32:17 - Everyone is basically living in a dream mashup of their current external situation & old emotional meanings and this is an important recognition when trying to build trust. sometimes things need to be said even though they feel like they really really should go without saying
- 32:18 - 40:03 - The taboo/awkwardness around discussing or questioning trust/motives in relationships. What heuristic should you use to establish trust?trust-building frameworks must simultaneously be trustworthiness-learning frameworks
- 40:04 - 56:41 - Forgiveness and blame in relation to re-establishing trust. Examples from personal situations. What is Blame?, everything makes sense, there's no way to communicate correctly or incorrectly - there's just what works in context and what doesn't work, apologize in the other person's frame; forgive in your own frame, building trust out of distrust, blindspot feedback is hard (but possible!)
- 56:44 - 1:02:52 - ~ everything is fertile fodder for learning/jazz - synergic exaptation
- 59:34 -
- 1:02:54 - 1:13:04 - Practicing Game B/NNTD in a world that is predominantly Game A oriented. How will it all play out? in the meantime What do we do in the meantime if we can't dialogue?
- 1:13:52 - 1:23:09 - Resolving differences in the Game B community. blindspot feedback is hard (but possible!). What is the difference between power-with, power-over
September 30th, 2021
- Waking Up - Becoming acutely aware of the extraordinary suffering and injustice that continues to occur on our planet and gaining a comprehensive understanding of the various existential crises we now face as a species.
- Tuning In - Tapping into the subtle and spiritual (a la the Metamoderna interpretation) aspects of our own inner experiences. Feeling more deeply into the changing states of our bodies and minds through contemplative, somatic, shamanic and mindfulness based practices.
- Leaning In - Having the courage to show up, engage with others and take on a level of responsibility within our communities. To open our hearts and risk having them touched by those around us.
- Integrating In - Recognising those areas in which we can still mature and grow. Identifying our own interpersonal edges, shadow material and personal trauma and then doing the work to integrate the parts of our selves that we are either not yet conscious of or have perhaps chosen to repress.
- Levelling Up - Recognising the kind of cultural codes and cognitive frames we use to interpret reality and continually orienting ourselves towards a more nuanced and all encompassing understanding of how the world works and our place within it.
- Throwing Down - Directing our energies towards making art, music or any other kind of creative endeavour that allows us to fully express ourselves and then sharing the fruit of our talents with our wider community. This also involves taking in others creative expressions.
- Giving Back - Taking effective collective action towards bringing about more ecological balance, social justice, peace and joyfulness into the world.
Malcolm podcast appearances
- February 18th, 2021 on The Lightfoot Podcast with Joe Lightfoot
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