complaints are sacred: how we affirm our values

Podcast summaries

• Keywords: NNTD, Home, everyone will constantly point out ways in which things are incomplete, Learning how to trust yourself when all men doubt you, but make allowance for their doubting too, community, what might a healthy community look like?, complaints are sacred: how we affirm our values, protectiveness is damage control, defensiveness = protectiveness, Everyone is basically living in a dream mashup of their current external situation & old emotional meanings, sometimes things need to be said even though they feel like they really really should go without saying, What is Blame?, everything makes sense, there's no way to communicate correctly or incorrectly - there's just what works in context and what doesn't work, apologize in the other person's frame; forgive in your own frame, power dynamics

• 24:11 - 25:18 - Complaining everyone will constantly point out ways in which things are incomplete, complaints are sacred: how we affirm our values, protectiveness is damage control, defensiveness = protectiveness
  • M > It's like, take complaining, for instance. It's broadly considered among, even pretty mainstream circles, that complaining is not good - don't do it. You know, there's this big movement of like, 'a complaint free world' and so on. And they're really onto something because you can't build things out of complaints directly - they're really, really awful as building blocks. But underneath every complaint is something sacred that has been violated, and if you can get in touch with that then it's like, "Okay, there's something really important that needs honoring there." And so, if you can recognize that under every cynicism is a passion to avoid being duped. And you can say, "Well, yeah, I really don't want to be duped." And I want to feel excited. Can I have both of those? Yeah. This this constant, "both-and"ing basically,

September 5th, 2021

• complaints are sacred: how we affirm our values

August 29th, 2021

• complaints are sacred: how we affirm our values
  • twitter.com/relic_radiation/status/1425952637904723972

Sequence on NNTD

• complaints are sacred: how we affirm our values
  • (perhaps different from the tone of whining, which is not per se sacred except insofar as everything is sacred)
  • apologizing on behalf of the universe