post-compromise
- pull in notes from other private roams
- image that could be used for this would be two paths around a lake
- and then a dotted line showing the compromise
10 linked references
November 21st, 2025
- huhAn exercise for getting same-sided & post-compromise
as is sort of a full-fractal buy-in / omniwin training game exercise
Podcast summaries
With Joe Lightfoot — Podcast with Joe Lightfoot Transcript › Outline of ideas discussed (I'm 'M', Joe is 'J') › 0:00:34 - 12:55 - Home, what might a healthy community lo… › 9:20 - 12:54 - What it would look like if I built my own …
November 3rd, 2021
- E > I'm from the NL, and I think it's a cultural thing to think compromise is good here
- political discussions try to win land back from the sea
- solution lies somewhere in the middle
August 1st, 2021
Widening the Bridges: Beyond Consent and Autonomy - relev… › Your Freedom Is My Freedom › > Anarchism does not represent a final state of affairs, …
- I like this! post-compromise
Home
- Any of these might be an utter dealbreaker—it might not be possible for us to have complete Home together, without compromise. But there's a post-compromise way to orient to all of this, on a mindset level at least.
- The thing to start with is everybody doing their best to find a stance that says "I want ALL of us to be COMPLETELY satisfied. We may not be able to achieve that, but that, not compromise, is the actual goal." This is important for getting everybody on the same side. As long as compromise is on the table, it means we are opponents in a tug-of-war.
- There may be a set of inevitable tradeoffs, but ideally we can at least come to a place where we're on the same page about which tradeoffs to make for The Time Being.
- This is not always easy! But it's usually not a thing people even try, and it becomes easier with practice.
- I've written out a little exercise that may help with this:
- For example, a solution to the air temperature problem might involve different temperatures in different rooms or at different times of day, using perhaps more precise heating technology like in-floor heating. Maybe it turns out that a huge chunk of what makes one person cold is their feet being cold, and having in-floor heating allows them to be even more comfortable with the air at 20° than they usually would be with the air at 23° but no in-floor heating. Maybe the person whose face overheats in warm air also loves the in-floor heating! This is a good example because it highlights a real zero-compromise solution to what could seem like a totally intractable conflict. And it might not be possible with the resources available! Retrofitting in-floor heating into an existing building isn't free (although I just looked it up and it's not nearly as expensive as I imagined!)
- A huge part of what gets in the way of even discovering such a solution, in the meantime, is the compromise-based mindset, which necessitates constantly defending one's own needs from a perception that others will try to undermine those needs getting met. However, this protective energy is to others the very threat that one is oneself defending from! And it invites it in return.
- see defensiveness = protectiveness for more on this dynamic
- NVC has stuff on this re "needs" vs "strategies"
- that can probably be usefully incorporated into this stuff
- but needs a larger meta-frame like the NNTD to hold it
- otherwise in some low-trust situations it devolves into frame battles that can't easily be talked about within the frame of NVC
March 13th, 2021
- "if I give you half my sandwich because I want you to not go hungry, that's not a compromise."
omniwin training game
- Relates to An exercise for getting same-sided & post-compromise, which you could usefully do beforehand.
January 28th, 2021
- omniwin relates very closely to post-compromise
July 16th, 2020
- (also maybe juicy sources here in call w George today)
- also relates to post-selfishness
- link to Sarah's self-full-ness thing