Malcolm Ocean's roamblog

November 3rd, 2021

edited 2021-11-03 · open in Roam
  • conversation with Eva de Hullu
    • post-compromise
      • E > I'm from the NL, and I think it's a cultural thing to think compromise is good here
        • political discussions try to win land back from the sea
        • solution lies somewhere in the middle
    • M > coherence therapy
    • E > expanded or contracted awareness
    • E > Warren ran a transdiagnostic conference last month
      • I went to it
        • but it was kind of disappointing
        • mostly MoL folks, some others but they weren't really speaking the same language
        • trying to come up with new diagnoses
      • shared goal of having a theory that backs up whatever method you're using
      • E > I have a student looking into memory reconsolidation & PCT
    • re getting books republished
      • helps to know that there's an interest in those books
  • call
    • Ryan T
      • I can either get the gratification immediately or from the specific source I want to get it from, not both
      • 1h30ish
      • Eliot Red
        • "no" is going for a fight response
        • we forget we have others
          • flight: like walking away from child yelling
          • freeze: do nothing, just hang out unreactively
          • fawn: oh, you really want the ice cream
        • ideally you want to get good at all 4 and have them available
      • if you only get [eg postjudgment] on a sort of meta-cognitive/cognitive level, then
        • "you don't fully believe that it's true"
        • "this is not the sort of thing I ever could forget"
        • "I notice I have a foot"
          • "impossible to have a situation where the information is necessary and hard to retrieve"