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NNTD mode 2: trust bet

created 2021-06-28 · edited 2021-06-28 · open in Roam

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August 9th, 2024

  • this #poem (Rest Stop by Chandler Peters-Durose) is an interesting case study of something about trust, naive trust maybe... NNTD mode 2: trust bet... also something about faulty sensory appreciation? like this person's past is full of abuse, which on some level they trust in the sense that it feels familiar...
    • When given the opportunity to connect with  
      No  
      To be welcomed back into your  
      Home  
      No  
      Family? 
      Do you take it? 
      //
      You reached out your hand and I took it. It felt too good —I pull away almost immediately
      I look behind me seeing the ash of my life I burned
      and I begin to cry
      Through the tears I see you next to me
      Still here
      Still—
      Here
      Tears tear through my body and we sit down on the bench. You hold me close
      Rest here as long as you need, im here and im not leaving, but you need me to promise that you
      will not go back. You made it too far
      Everything in my body says to turn back to the life I knew.
      I look deep into your eyes, and my voice shakes as I whisper ok, I promise  
      You do not let go as I watch the life I thought I knew disappear before my eyes.

trust dance moves

Here's one model from August 3rd, 2020, with a bit of edi… › There are a couple of modes people are often in when trus… › People usually aren't consciously in control of which mod…
Here's one model from August 3rd, 2020, with a bit of edi… › There are a couple of modes people are often in when trus… › trust dance modes
  • NNTD mode 2: trust bet
    • Making a bet on something you don't know how to non-naively trust but you on some level predict that you will become able to trust
      • via one or more of:
        • evolution of it (it wasn't trustworthy before, but becomes so)
        • evolution of you (you grow so as to become able to relate to it in a reliable way)
        • evolution of the dialogue (you understand the generator of the thing, so you can trust it)
      • (ideally doing all of this without a sense of self-blame or other-blame if it “doesn’t work out”—on any timescale)
    • Type 2 allows for some naivety, in some sense. One part might want to try something and another part doesn't quite trust it, but you go for it anyway.
    • The integrity to honor of this mode is the courage to listen to one's best guess of a good bet to make.