betrayal

created 2021-05-27 · edited 2022-06-30 · open in Roam

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these people have an interesting mode of trust repair after a betrayal (says my friend Ethan Reeder)... that basically the person who kept a secret needs to honestly answer any and all questions asked by the person who was betrayed, and that that person needs to ask all questions that arise and seem to matter.
- thepactinstitute.com/what-is-pact
- the naive interpretation is simply that this rebuilds trust because the asker now trusts the secret-keeper to be open and honest, etc
- but my sense is that insofar as we model trust as truth in first-person, this process literally rebuilds the shared sense of reality between the two of them

new new definition of betrayal / what is betrayal in the context of positive-sum game theory? = it's when you pull away from the we, and act as a me, and aren't immediately honest or forthcoming about that

How can experiences of distrust (or betrayals of trust) be turned into a generative resource, rather than a roadblock?

case study on betrayal
- > What kind of a person would borrow a book then scribble some phone numbers on the last page? I can’t imagine writing in my own books, let alone someone else’s

you're eliminating certain kinds of betrayal from even being possible
- eg if delivering a letter
  - trusting the messenger not to snoop
  - vs envelope that's hard to secretly open
  - vs locked container that can't be opened

betrayal
- camping case study
- Nov 26ish recording case study
- Dec momentum case study