Malcolm Ocean's roamblog

November 10th, 2021

edited 2021-11-10 · open in Roam
  • how I avoid distractions on Twitter
  • Now Page vibes
  • Coherence Coaching
    • "experientially revisit a potent example"
      • (is it okay to use a present example, eg if the client needs to reply to a text message right now)
    • "let's try a little experiment"
    • sentence stem completion
      • can do it with coach saying first half of sentence and client just completing second half
        • some clients prefer this—keeps them more in the experience
        • or some clients like to take over doing the first half of the sentence
      • don't be afraid to use it 10 times
        • "good, good, let's try it again!"
    • between-session card
      • aim: to help the client understand and remember the symptom
      • if doing this in second-person (eg "so afraid of losing you") feels too intense or blocked
        • can do it in third-person instead (eg "so afraid of losing my sister")
      • problem (of the psp) & solution
      • "here's the lesser suffering I have to do to avoid the greater suffering"
        • "I must" / "I better not"
    • Phrases for Deepening Discovery
      • "There‘s something you know about that..."
      • "That feels familiar in some way..."
      • "That feels important. Let‘s stay with that for a moment..."
      • "What are you noticing right now?"
      • "What‘s it like to be in touch with that?"
      • Have client tell relevant person what s/he just told coach...
      • "What do you experience when you tell him/her that?"
      • "What does that mean about you? about that relationship? about your life?"
    • re Phrases for Deepening Discovery
      • we don't tend to ask "how do you feel?" questions
        • because they tend to produce a cognitive searching for feelings 😅
        • (I find myself thinking we could probably use Bio-Emotive tools for this, if we wanted)
  • my threads on twitter