July 19th, 2024
- #2tweet reward & punishment, "right thing to do" are also making things in terms of what you want... they're just degenerate cases, because they can be used to argue anything
- reward & punishment, "right thing to do" are also making things in terms of what you want... they're just degenerate cases, because they can be used to argue anything
- (this needs some additional preface)
- #2tweet weird paradox: the moment when it truly becomes a choice is the moment when it becomes obvious what to do
- weird paradox: the moment when it truly becomes a choice is the moment when it becomes obvious what to do
- more of a discovery
- something I want to write/draft... #blogpost integrity choice commitment acceptance isn't the same as acceptance
- acceptance plays very complexly with choice, commitment, and integrity
- both past choice and present choice
- provisionally, it seems to me that insofar as a commitment isn't made freely, then if it takes will to maintain and there's a real possibility of exiting it, it will
- the central example of all of this is marriage
- arranged marriage never had the illusion that you were supposed to choose in the first place. you could influence it a bit but the commitment was barely even something YOU were doing
- and if you hated your experience of being married to this person, well, too bad, many people do, and you live with it
- chosen marriage in a context where divorce is impossible except abuse...
- has
- contrast this with the very different kind of commitment that it is to have kids with someone
- Jess > "had a relationship with an imaginary lover... which allowed me to see that he could be that lover"
- when I imagined that lover, there was someone I was loving. the relationship I was having was one of loving. not comparing them to anyone.
- there are things that would make me unable to have that loving relationship with someone. relationships they could have with the truth, for instance, where it's like... I'm not going to open my heart that way—and I mean that very somatically.
- "believe" is also a verb, and so is "want" or "prefer".
- can you choose to believe things? can you choose to want or prefer things?
- "backflip" is also a verb. can you choose to backflip? I can, sometimes, but I had to learn