April 19th, 2021
- "captain & first mate" model of decision-making
- one person has final say, but both are deeply discussing and responsible for
- (from... The Married Man Sex Life Primer 2011)
- thinking about The Possible Relationship, an article by a group of four called The UV Family, who are exploring something that resonates powerfully with me and with my description of Relationship Panarchy
- this comic vibes with the whole "you're in some sense married to anyone you've had sex with" notion
- Interesting GCI stories (mostly private links) #PWYW
- rosie
- example trust-dancing / parenting thing
- amend honing & jamming post with
- "no matter how confused you get about what's going on on this dimension, you don't need to feel bad"
- there's a brilliant video I saw recently of someone making a sandwich for themselves and being so touched at having done it, and like, YES. it's worth being able to access this level of love towards yourself
- and also something like... insofar as this is not enough, which it isn't—masturbation doesn't infinitely substitute for interpersonal sex—it's not enough and that's totally okay and it's totally okay to want actual other people who you can love and who love you and for that to all be workable in all the ways you want it to be workable
- (#nowplaying In Your Hands by Jason Mraz "I love making breakfast for someone instead of me")
- Nick Cammarata has written about this under self-love