you can't rely on a conversation with someone else to make sense of the fact that you're having trouble making sense of things with them

created 2024-07-18 · edited 2024-07-18 · open in Roam

"if you can't make sense of things with someone, you can't make sense with them about that"

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you can't rely on a conversation with someone else to make sense of the fact that you're having trouble making sense of things with them
- the thing from yesterday's coaching session, of like, how if your connection with someone has broken down then trying to make sense of that with them is likely to perpetuate the problem
  - this is sort of a generalization of the problem that happened when I tried to sync my meta-protocol sense with Jean as top priority
  - Passionate Marriage, two-choice dilemmas, etc
  - differentiation!