talkaboutability is only enough when it's satisfying to everyone
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September 24th, 2021
- sometimes just getting the chance to speak something is profoundly transformative and satisfying, because merely having what you're sitting with welcomed and held disconfirms an old experience of trying to talk to people about something and being completely rejected or shot down about it
- but other times you want more—you need not just same-sidedness but same-pagedness as well
- often we want some sort of change to occur, and often that's not possible immediately
- but there's still a huge space of things between just speaking to some concern and immediately getting it dealt with, that can produce a sense of non-naive handledness
- and nothing in here necessarily involves blame—in fact, blame would get in the way of the deep listening required to find mutually satisfying outcomes (whether structural change or just shared understandings)
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- this is... kinda moot? it's too reactionary for a proper blog post, nobody outside LSA even uses the term (or if they do they use it to refer to your product having good word-of-mouth properties)