Priya Rose
- formerly Priya Ghose
- married to Andrew Rose
4 linked references
January 13th, 2023
- from Andrew Rose & Priya Rose
- from tweets by Andrew & DMs w Priya
- re getting started
- first one had just like 6 people
- if ppl know it's every week and feel comfortable bringing friends it can grow exponentially
- we used partiful from pretty early on (as soon as we discovered it)
- > The most important thing is "don't quit", so we're intentionally lazy and simple, otherwise we wouldn't be able to keep it up.
- > we have a loose theme each dinner
- > capacity is capped at 30
- > gender ratio is loosely managed
- > we do lightning talks
- (priya says this is just sometimes)
- re weekly
- > yeah i agree, i was hesitant about weekly and am more likely to suggest canceling any given week, but usually andrew convinces me not to. for neighborhood stuff it's been great tho. you meet so many ppl in nyc and it's amazing to be able to invite them to something else that week. it makes it easier to "convert" strangers into friends, collaborators, roommates. bring 'em into the social scene
- > yeah, although there's a natural cadence too. like a lot of our friends only come every few weeks. every week is hard to swing if you're far away or you work on mondays. also there's a lot going on in nyc so you might be invited to something else sunday, and since we host so often it's no big deal if you skip sometimes
- re timing/structure
- me: do you time the food to arrive at the very beginning of the event, or a bit later once more people have trickled in?
- P > No, the event starts at 6 in winter or 7 in summer. Food usually arrive around 8:30
- we do have snacks out before then: usually apples, cheese, popcorn, stuff like that
- re food
- > we just order thai food and give our venmos if ppl want to donate. but we definitely end up subsidizing the thai food every week
- (seems like this is because they're only asking for $7 donation and obviously dinner costs more than that these days)
- me > does the thai food ordering involve people putting in requests then, given that they're already there?
- > no, we don't ask people for orders. We chose Thai food cuz its a friendly cuisine for almost everyone. Most dishes are naturally dairy and gluten free. And we order half vegetarian, half meat. Usually we get noodles, fried rice, and somw curries
- remarks from Priya Rose
- re themes
- > i always choose a "theme" just for the sake of the partiful, but sometimes the themes are really abstract and there's no accompanying talks
- > we've also played around with doing games or other stuff
- > or if it's someone's bday we'll make it a bday celebration
- re talks
- variations:
- spur of the moment lightning talks
- (timed 3-5min talks with minimal prep)
- a few planned speakers on a theme
- > the planned talks were a huge game changer, i think they're what made sundays move from just an event to something special. usually people mingle for 1-2 hours first and can talk about whatever, although already ppl start talking about the topic since it's top of mind...which leads to more interesting or new conversations than sans topic
- > then for the talks, the whole party all gets together. so during and after the talks, suddenly everyone has tons of shared context. this helps new people feel included, get to know the lay of the land etc. the party vibes always change in really amazing ways after the talks
- > also some of our friends have just given wildly interesting talks. most weeks they're not prepared ahead of time, it's really just giving them a venue to talk about whatever weird things they're into or are on their minds. some weeks we do set a theme and have ppl prepare ahead of time, but the talks are still casual
- > also pre-setting talks means we have a good mix of men and women speak, ime. men are more comfortable giving spur of the moment lightning talks in mixed gender groups, so sometimes impromptu talks can end up being just men
- re "dinner"
- me > what are the starts of the events like? when I think "dinner party" I think of a bunch of people sitting down at the same time at a table, maybe even some equivalent of grace (I like to thank the supply chains, personally)... but at 30 people that's not really realistic. maybe it was more like that when it was only 6 tho?
- > no it was never like that. "dinner party" is just a psy-op cuz we live in NYC which more heavily relies on drinking culture than SF. so it's really called that so ppl come in thinking that it's NOT a drinking party, and imagining maybe red wine at most. but really it's a mingle / hangout party for the most part
- example events
October 20th, 2021
- "ready to launch" — clear output
- P > startups are baby steps
- A > I've done a lot of hackathons, and I don't think there's been any where stuff has been ready to ship by hour 6
- M > did we get you guys over a hurdle?
- A > yeah, kinda
- we probably could
- the amount & quality of the feedback we got from that one event was AWESOME
- like 6-7 documents of people meticulously going through the onboarding flow and documenting confusions
- it's hard to get people to do that
- P > I really think it was huge for us
- the way I envision the product is different from before/after
- other people helped got us out of the weeds
- I feel more confident after the barn-raising
- A > one of the people who came looks like gonna be a customer
- which is huge
- every beta customer matters so much
- A > got us really clear that the new user experience needs to feel good for nontech people as well
- P > now it feels obvious
- A > spiel?
- M > yeah maybe!
- A > rapid-fire notes
- size: I think it could have had 3× the people
- structure: slightly too unstructured
- all the structure we added seemed to be used
- people seemed to read the notion wiki etc
- making a wiki for how to contribute usefully
- length: people seemed to kind of run out of steam after 4-6h
- the reasons hackathons go so long
- particular type of people: college, software, gamey types
- gamified
- should be more like 6h
- or more hackathon-energized
- P > interintellect
- maybe have a central event with a starting gun
- but also maybe some people hang out for afterparty