people recapitulate old dynamics with a hope that something different will happen
No content on this page itself — see linked references below.
2 linked references
March 23rd, 2022
- often when people do a shitty thing, they get a shitty response, and people are like "they must have wanted that shitty response"
- eg "he must have been trying to make me feel bad"
- and sure, sometimes people do do things to make each other feel bad
- although even there, there's still a "why? why does that seem like the best solution to their problem?"
- but often no, people are hoping something very different will happen, and are surprised and frustrated when it goes poorly
- but people can even end up kinda gaslighting themselves about this