May 16th, 2021
- Reading this article
- > Yet I couldn’t help feeling that in her effort to empower these women, she had also inadvertently perpetuated the very notion that had been ingrained in them by the men who threatened to leave: that they were somehow inadequate, that their pleasure wasn’t enough.
- frames man
- from a Montessori thing
- re trust-dancing, a distinction between favor & trust
- the thing I'm calling trust-dancing kind of includes both of these, but they're indeed worth distinguishing for sure!
- much later, very relevant
- from Michael Ashcroft's Alexander Technique course, even tho he said not to take notes
- > “Trying is only emphasising the thing we know already,” said Frederick Matthias Alexander, the originator of the Technique. You have no idea how you landed that shot so well, so all your trying is just emphasising the wrong thing.
- > Alexander captured the way out of this trap: “When you stop doing the wrong thing, the right thing does itself.” Don’t try to think. Instead, learn to stop doing the things that get in the way of thinking and just let thinking happen by itself.
- hm hm, deep truth to this and also tons of subtlety
- certain eternalish confusions near here
- > Things that are outside of your awareness are not accessible to you; you cannot choose to engage with something until your awareness includes it.
- this feels like something I've found frustrating about a lot of techniques
- they try to shortcircuit this
- see also how I avoid distractions on Twitter
- thread of relevant stuff
