March 18th, 2023
- NLP - I don't per se agree with this but it's interesting and I like how it references generalization - everyone is constantly overgeneralizing
- it's sort of one take on what's going on in the constructivism of Interface Theory of Perception
- notes on running online workshops, from Tad
- having him presenting in front of a projector screen was an excellent touch - gave way more feel of being in a room together, definitely felt pro
- 5-10 minute exercise then break is fun, since the short timer decreases perfectionism and encourages you to just get something down, but then you might get momentum that flows over
- 1-2min rapid-fire prompts are also really good
- I was on a workshop where someone was talking about how they help people who are coparenting with a narcissistic ex
- someone asked:
- > i’m so curious for a definition of “narcissistic” ? i ask from a place of tending towards empathy rather than judgements/labels. i’d love to be able to connect with the passion you have for this
- she responded
- > People who are in this niche know very well. My POV is empathy with discernment. Unfortunately, it is the empathy of the victims that got them stuck. That's a very delicate subject to address. I take sides with the survivors. That's my POV. Hope that makes sense.
- I commented:
- > one weird self-referential definition of narcissism that I like is "to a narcissist, everyone else feels like a narcissist", which allows you to take their perspective in a useful way, without getting caught up in their story about it
- this implies there's a sense in which their worldview might naturally generates DARVO, not as a conscious strategy but as just the embodiment of how things occur to them
- this is a specific case of a more general case of situations where empathy can mess you up
- if you naively try to take the perspective of someone whose perspective negates yours, you'll end up negating your own perspective
