from a narcissistic perspective, everyone else looks like a narcissist

created 2022-01-28 · edited 2023-03-18 · open in Roam

this came to me as a sudden flash of insight sometime in 2019, while trying to model not just the behavior but the perspective underneath the behavior of a narcissistic relative of a friend of mine, and noticing how my thinking seems to operate when it's in similar modes
I have not remotely confirmed it in any strong sense, but I've remarked this to at least half a dozen thoughtful people and nobody has had any objection to it
- largely they say something like "seems right"

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from a narcissistic perspective, everyone else looks like a narcissist
- this implies there's a sense in which their worldview might naturally generates DARVO, not as a conscious strategy but as just the embodiment of how things occur to them