a common confusion: "there's no way to satisfy this person's ask while staying in integrity" when what's actually so is "I can't think of a way to satisfy this person's ask while staying in integrity"

there's a common confusion people make when trust-dancing, where there's something that someone is asking for (eg to be understood, or to have something taken care of, or whatever) and the person they're asking feels that they can't satisfy the wish because there's no way to do so without violating something of their own

however, they make a mind projection error and assume that the lack of

this is relevant to the NNTD because