Unconditional Parenting

January 19th, 2022

• watching Alfie Kohn Unconditional Parenting talk
  • "false dichotomies are popular because they make choosing easy" (~9mins)
  • ~kids learn bullying patterns from their parents all too well (~15mins)
    • (resonates with a visa talking point)
  • core library / canon / Books/Cultural Literacy
    • PCT
    • Alfie
    • Deutsch
    • SooS
    • ??
  • "Punishments and rewards are popular in part because they pretend to be a one-size-fits-all solutions. That's part of why they don't work very well either." (1h00)
  • "have to look beneath behavior"
  • "the opposite of praise isn't criticism—the opposite of conditional affection is unconditional affection" (~1h19.5)
  • "how to deal with difficult parents"
    • = concept of a parenting book, but from the perspective of a child
    • "how to deal with your guru"