the power and pitfalls of punishing peoples' patterns

May 23rd, 2025

• the power and pitfalls of punishing peoples' patterns
  • or with less iteration, why and why not to not respond to people who are
  • why it's done
  • the confusions of this:
    • behaviorism-but-dumb-tho
      • talking about "reinforcing" but not actually understanding
      • could reference not every moment with something to learn is actually a teachable moment
      • [the example where you get them to do something else]
    • secret punishment
      • [grab from "what's the deal" maybe, or my convo w Y]
    • unskillfulness reframed as valour
      • unless you CAN respond skillfully and wholesomely, you can't honestly frame your refusal to do so as virtuous. you have to acknowledge that you can't
  • example of failure to receive information spoken that the listener would have wanted