October 6th, 2021
- thwink dueling loops cybernetics model...
- notes on Book/Making Sense of Behavior
- > It’s not about predicting.
- Oho, interesting direct contrast w predictive processing
- > The general rule is that if you want to control something, you have to perceive it.
- > You may be listening to the radio or talking to your passenger, and not even notice what this simple control system is so kindly doing for you—as long as you keep one eye on the road
- > This picture of the right path isn’t like a prediction; it’s like a target or a blueprint.
- This is again such an intriguing contrast with the language of predictive processing, directly contradicting it. Ofc, they mean a different thing by "prediction", but it seems to me that PP is making an is/ought error that the PCT frame can much much better distinguish.
- and PP got into its confusion via starting by trying to understand simple perception rather than behavior
- although a question that kinda goes unanswered by the PCT model is how we go about perceiving things we aren't trying to control in the first place, or something
- like, arguably there still needs to be some sort of ontum for it, there's just no reference level at a given moment I guess?
- but that's interesting and points at an important contrast between PCT and PP, where in PP "prediction" is used both for the "is" reference level of pure non-controlling perception and for the "ought" reference level of controlling-perception
- > This [reorganization] process is not intelligent; it is simple and mechanical.
- But you can, more or less, pursue intentional reorganization via therapy etc
- > the best approach is just to say “reorganization” when we mean acquiring a new control skill as a way of satisfying intrinsic needs, and to use “learning” only when we intend to be vague.
- statement against interest is one of the fastest ways to build trust
- statement against interest = saying something you wouldn't say if you were totally self-centred
- shift from blame to joint contribution (to problem)
- 2 key elements of apology
- own own role
- recognize the impacts
- > if you feel you need to add something, might be:
- impact on you isn't acknowledged
- she's not owning her agency
- you want her to know you had good intentions
- Tim > ~ I tell her I'm not asking for an apology, but that makes it worse
- (I would say that he could do well to acknowledge that she can't trust that he's not asking for an apology)