> I'm very surprised to hear you say this, because I have been regularly (including as recently as yesterday) quoting something you said last year about the idea that it's not so much "choose and commit" but that if you go through the right process, you'll suddenly *realize* that this is your best option. And that that realization will feel *obvious*, not like a "choice" at all, let alone a difficult one. The clarity will be experienced as a relief of that anxiety, not as an attempt to overcome it. This is how I see it (and what I teach in eg
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The way you phrased it was something like "you'll stop wondering 'is this the best I can do?' and suddenly go 'whoa! this *IS* the best I can do!' and it'll feel like a relief and a clarity and a huge joy, not like resignation or gritting one's death and deciding".
And the "one must choose and commit" message in this post seems totally counter to that.