February 25th, 2021

I have thoughts on the shadow work stuff and doing it together... I'd say that like Visa said, other people can point out your shadow, and if you're in a group or partnership then other people outside that can point out your collective shadow. Pretty much always. But most of the time, it's very hard to point at the shadow clearly, because the nature of blindspots is that, well, they're hard to see from the inside! And because of projection.

So it's important to be able to say "okay, I see you're trying to point at something. I don't really know what it is, but we can explore it and try to get more clarity." Rather than feeling like you need to immediately change or defend yourself."

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