extending trust vs trusting the other person over yourself

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notes re NNTD from convo w a friend — extending trust vs trusting the other person over yourself
- > thinking he was more spiritually developed than me so when he didn’t freak out when I freaked out about a major trauma of mine being activated on day 1, I trusted him over me
- on a more general level, NNTD also says that this is a confusion. even if it WERE true that he were in some sense right about some risk, trusting him over yourself would STILL be a form of self-abandonment. so it matters zero whether he's more spiritually developed.
- (and I would contrast this with something I might call "extending trust from yourself to him" (haven't iterated much on the language here) where it's not that his sense contradicts yours and you pick his, but more you're simply uncertain and it feels trusty *enough* TO YOU to roll with someone else's sense of things)