Divia Eden

> I also think a concept that babies get very early if they aren’t born with it is something like attunement. Which I could unpack a lot more but I posit that the full real deal is an I-thou thing, and the I-it orientation blocks information flow

> I think some of the important insights of behaviorism are:
-timing often matters a ton more than other paradigms might predict
-a fuckton of behavior change can happen if you go more gradually than might seem intuitive
-some stuff about adding cues to behavior

> I think Alfie Kohn’s focus is really weird
I think “rewards” can be weird and patronizing and often aren’t really reinforcing if people don’t pay close attention

But from my perspective, it seems like offering kids upside to do stuff that adults want them to do is a lot better for relationships and more respectful than many other common approaches?

So part of my deal with him is that I really don’t get why he thinks that’s the interesting or important part
And then given that I think he does a lot of straw manning important and very useful ideas
I’m not left with much that I like