a major momentum downer is putting balls into a slow court
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January 26th, 2021
- a major momentum downer is putting balls into a slow court - momentum sinks - relevant to self-energizing meta-team &
- this needs a way better name but the gist is a pattern I noted with TWO of my goals today
- a goal involving paperwork is delayed because a lawyer hasn't replied to my emails
- a music-recording goal is delayed because the guy I was hoping to collaborate with has been super busy so
- the interesting phenomenon here is that part of the delay is literal, but a lot of it is psychological!
- in both cases, there's still lots of stuff that could be done without getting more contact from the other person, but nonetheless in both cases almost nothing has happened for a week or a month respectively!
- there's something about like, putting the ball in someone else's court and then hoping they'll return it with even more energy, but instead you get nothing or maybe a small trickle.
- re getting more energy, see this slingshot thing:
- getting back a firm "no" would be way better, because it would put the ball clearly back in your own court. even if a bit of momentum was lost from the excitement not being returned, at least you have the ball again!
- interestingly, part of the damper for me with the music thing may actually have come directly from a message he sent saying something like "yeah I want to mix one of your tracks. I feel stoked about it. I think we could even get it in like films or something". this was initially exciting, but it now meant that one of the more exciting things in relation to this goal was a thing I was now waiting for him to do
- whereas if he'd just sprung it on me, that might've worked differently? idk
- at any rate, it's underscoring to me the value that it is to give a clear, warm, "no" or "not right now" when that's what's so, vs ghosting or vacillating
- at least in certain situations.