November 12th, 2022

edited 2022-11-12 · open in Roam

people often feel like someone is asking them to surrender their own perspective, but usually the person just wants theirs received, and the other person doesn't know how to do that while holding their own
- case study last night in the convo between me & Jess about musical styles, where I was saying I felt stereotyped/dismissed, and she felt like I was trying to say she shouldn't have her perceptions or values or whatever
- twitter.com/Malcolm_Ocean/status/1591536884471443457
non-coercion - it seems to me that in some sense what Beeminder is doing is marking the reality of the passage of time, with reference to this particular area of your life... and yeah, spreading the consequences out so that you have a tighter feedback loop made of something real