February 25th, 2023

anyway, here are the original LRC commitments and assumptions. I have in some sense been aiming to embody what these are pointing at since I first learned about them 10 years ago. I used to *try* to embody them, and I don't do that anymore.

I now have several serious critiques of the articulation here but insofar as these are just a dozen pointers to a single way-of-being shift, that way-of-being still seems to me like the obvious way to live, and I expect that to be basically self-evident to anyone who understands what the shift is. so eg you'll take issue with the "no apologies" thing, but the stuff you like about apologies is totally doable from that other way-of-being, whether it calls itself an apology or not, or whatever (and meanwhile the Upstart scene was bad at doing the thing that good apologies are good for)

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The reason I talk about “non-naive” trust-dancing is to point at how while naive trust (or “faith”) can work in the short term, attempts to rebuild it break down unless they shift to that a common failure mode is attempting to build trust using naive trust and that in some sense all trust-dancing is ultimately non-naive in the sense that it will ultimately ground out in whatever is underneath.

> Neil, there is a logic flaw in your little aphorism that seems quite telling. Since you and I are part of the Universe, then we would also be indifferent and uncaring. Perhaps you forgot, Neil, that we are not superior to the Universe but merely a fraction of it. Nice day, indeed

my version

my threads on twitter about NVC - although I later note the metaphor is misleading

> NVC is wrong: there is a distinct embodied feeling of being ripped off, or left out, or misunderstood, or any other number of complex relational phenomena

(but NVC is right: it can be helpful to decouple relational stories from first person individual experiences)

> all dogs used to trust me until one bit me and now all dogs hate me.

OK that's not fair: I used to be in sync with all dogs until one bit me and now I don't know how to sync with any dogs