April 4th, 2023
- notes on Books/The Art of Gathering by Priya Parker
- > many others, myself included, aspire to greater purpose in gathering yet often run up against two kinds of internal resistance. One comes from the desire to multitask; the other from modesty.
- MOOOOOOD
- okay we've hit paydirt
- this is where I'm blocked
- I GET purpose! I'm not just having events for the sake of having them
- but I'm trying to do a lot of things
- and I'm afraid to be really bold with it
- Jess asked a good Q, about how if it a year this felt like a really important moment, how would that be?
- I feel like orienting to having multiple events (before & after) may be useful in terms of dampening a multitasking temptation
- as I can sort of divide it into two flavors of events
- one thought would be something like
- have something about ontario-or-something when B&T are there
- have an open-ended meta-protocol jam when Eric is there
- but that's more in terms of flavors of the events
- > This modesty is related to a desire not to seem like you care too much—a desire to project the appearance of being chill, cool, and relaxed about your gathering. Gathering well isn’t a chill activity.
- hmmmmmm
- sort of... but I care a lot and don't mind people seeing that. it's more that I'm afraid of conflict
- and a feeling that I don't actually know what is best and I want to emerge it together
- I feel like the ontario thursday evening meta-protocol jam was a cool instance of a very potent invitation, that invited me into a very interesting role as well
- but then I'm thinking about MARKETING
- specifically marketing but good-noncoercive tho
- and realizing that the more clear I can be about the point of the thing, the more people can simply not come if it's not a fit
- and okay sure there's an extent to which one type of thing I want to run is the sort of thing where we figure out what it wants to be once everyone shows up
- but even that can be done with a very clear powerful invitation, like I did with the meta-protocol jam circle in October